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When You See Child Abuse In Public

Posted on October 15, 2015 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 14, 2015 We have all seen parents losing it in public with their children, but what can anyone do to help? We were shopping once and passed between the electronics and clothing just in … Continue reading →

Posted in Anger, Parenting | Tagged anger, Compliment, Confront, Empathize, parent, Protect, Public Abuse, report | 14 Comments

Anger: What You Can Do

Posted on February 12, 2015 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 11, 2015 Anger can steal your peace of mind and add untold stress to our lives. There are many things I would not do when I am angry: Drive a car, answer the phone, … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting | Tagged anger, calm, children, De-stress, Meditation, parenting, Peace, Relax, stress, Vent, Yoga | 9 Comments

Parents Anonymous’ Bonus Effect

Posted on November 7, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

“Parents Anonymous is the greatest thing since sliced bread,” I’d say, and the next question is, “If it works so well, then why did you attend for so long?” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 5, 2014 The answer to … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting, Random Thoughts | Tagged anger, Annette, Attendance, Attending, Caroline, Chelsey, Concerns, Develyn, Elaine, Issues, Katie, Messy Rooms, money, Mr. Ramirez, Out-of-Control Child, Parents Anonymous, Parents Anonymous Group, Perspective, Raven, Reality, Reunion, stress, support group, Transportation, Unplanned Pregnancy | 27 Comments

Social Media Poster: “Respect for Others”

Posted on August 31, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Ranting is not something I regularly engage in but… By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 3, 2014 As many of you know, I volunteer for Parents Anonymous of New Jersey, a leader in the prevention of child abuse. If you … Continue reading →

Posted in Anger, Parenting | Tagged "Respect for Others", #ParentsAnonymous, abuse, anger, Anger/Rage, angry, child, child abuse, children, Dad, Daughters, Facebook, family, father, frustrated, Hit, Mom, mother, Non-violence, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, Respect, Social Media, Spank, spanking, Vent, Venting, Whipped | 14 Comments

Anger Uses Time, Energy and Thought

Posted on August 16, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 13, 2014 Shopping for a vehicle when you are in a hurry is risky business. Driving 65 mph in a school zone is tempting fate. Pushing firefighters aside to run into a burning building … Continue reading →

Posted in Anger, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, anger, Blowups, Breathe, calm, Calm Down, Cool Off, Counting, De-stress, discipline, Fix, Goal, Harsh, Identify Problems, Lessons, listen, Mental Health, Parents Anonymous, patience, Patient, Problems, punishment, rage, Rebel, Relax, Solution, Talk Radio, tantrum, teach, Temper, Vent | 17 Comments

Anger Builds Unless Safely Vented

Posted on July 31, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 30, 2014 A wise and funny man, Dr. Laurence J. Peter once said, “Speak when you are angry—and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” Not only was he wise, he was right. … Continue reading →

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The Incredible Mom-Hulk

Posted on June 24, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Parenting skills are passed from one generation to the next – unless the template is deliberately changed. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 25, 2014 My parenting life was spent anxiously trying to stay calm and not get angry. When … Continue reading →

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Father’s Day Message To Dads

Posted on June 4, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Father’s Day is approaching once again with many looking forward to celebrations but for me, it is bittersweet. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 4, 2014 My parents divorced in 1975 when I was already an adult; while I was … Continue reading →

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Get Children To Be Responsible For Their Room

Posted on May 22, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

The age-old problem of getting children to clean their rooms is one of the top issues discussed in Parents Anonymous Groups around the globe. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 21, 2014 There are almost as many solutions, though, as … Continue reading →

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Which Is It, Chores Or Punishment?

Posted on May 1, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 30, 2014 What if you won a contest and the prize was for a genie to instantly clean and do menial jobs around your home for you? Sounds wonderful, does it not? A busy … Continue reading →

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Promise Not Kept

Posted on April 18, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 16, 2014 Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her … Continue reading →

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Jolly K.’s Courageous Contribution

Posted on February 27, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Who is Jolly K. and why does she matter? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 26, 2014 Born in the late 1940s, Jolly K. was placed in the first foster care home as a young child. From there she would … Continue reading →

Posted in Education, How-To, Parenting, Public Service Announcement (PSA) | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, abuse, Abusing, abusive, anger, Anger/Rage, California, CAPTA, change, child, child abuse, Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act, children, Church, Counsel, daughter, Faith, Foster Care, Foster Home, Foster Homes, Founder, Girl, Hearings, Jolly, Jolly K., Leonard Lieber, Moms Who Lose Their Cool With Their Kids, mother, mothers, Parents Anonymous, Prevent, Prevention, rage, Redondo Beach, Senate Subcommittee, Senator Walter Mondale, Social Services, Social Worker, son, Speaking, Testimony, Therapy | 1 Comment

Fear As A Parenting Tool

Posted on February 22, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

In Parents Anonymous, we talk about parenting tools, fear isn’t one of them. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 19, 2014 “You better get it done before I get back!” “I better not hear of you monkeying around in school!” … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, Health, How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, abuse, Afraid, anger, angry, Canner, Canner Lid, Canning, child, child abuse, children, Cousins, Dad, daughter, father, fear, frustration, God, Green Beans, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, kids, Lost Lid, Mom, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, Pray, Prayed, Prayer, Put Up, Relatives | 3 Comments

How Ana’s Grandfather Taught Her Patience

Posted on January 8, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 8, 2014 There are lessons to be learned around us all the time. My friend Ana and I discuss many things and I am always surprised at her gentleness and composure in the face … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, anger, calm, child, children, Friend, frustrated, frustration, Grandfather, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, kids, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, patience, Patient, Relax, Relaxed, stress | Leave a comment

At The End Of My Rope

Posted on December 17, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Little feet following my every step and more questions than I had answers – was it really so long ago? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 18, 2013 This week I was talking with a friend by e-mail about different … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting, Recipe | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, Accident, anger, Bake, Bell pepper, Black pepper, Broth, Bump, Chef Paul Prudhomme, child, Child protective services, Cook, Cooking, CPS, daughter, Doctor, frustrated, frustration, group, haste, Hurry, Injury, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Lump, members, Mom, mother, New Jersey, parent, Parents Anonymous, Paul Prudhomme, Pediatrician, Pressure Cooker, Prudhomme, Rice, Sheet pan, stress, Supper, Tablespoon, time, Toddler, Vent, Venting, Young Child | 2 Comments

Positive and Negative Moods

Posted on November 20, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

“There is not one good thing I can say about my child!” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 20, 2013 Parents in my Parents Anonymous group heard this more than once from exasperated parents, (blush) me included. We all may … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, anger, angry, change, child, children, Dad, daughter, family, father, frustrated, frustration, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, kids, Mom, mother, parent, Parents Anonymous, patience, school, son, stress, support group | Leave a comment

Rules and Boundaries for Adult Children

Posted on October 4, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Eighteen is the magic number: Children are always stretching boundaries with parents, even when they are considered to be adults. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 3, 2013 As children grow from one stage to the next rules need review … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, anger, angry, Boundaries, child, children, Dad, daughter, Eighteen, family, father, frustrated, frustration, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Logic, logically, Magic Number, Mom, mother, Ownership, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, patience, Restrict, Restriction, Seventeen, teach, teenagers, Underage | Leave a comment

PMS and Changing Consequences

Posted on September 19, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Are you a pushover parent? Are you putty in your child’s manipulating hands? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2013 Changing your mind is quite different from caving in to wailing pleas from a child. In the beginning of … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, How-To, Parenting | Tagged Admit, anger, change, child, children, Consequence, daughter, Explain, family, frustrated, frustration, group, Harsh, Human, Humanity, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Mistake, mistakes, Model, Parents Anonymous, patience, PMS, Premenstrual Syndrome, Role Model, support group, Understand | Leave a comment

Remembering My September 11, 2001

Posted on September 19, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Where were you that day and what stands out most in your memory? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 11, 2013 September 11, 2001 is forever ingrained into our memories as it unfolded; most every person can tell you exactly … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting | Tagged anger, Bullying, child, children, Dad, daughter, death, family, father, Hateful, Highway, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Jersey Salute, Meanness, Member, Mom, mother, New York, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, People, road rage, support group, Theft, Thief, World Trade Center | 1 Comment

What Will Your Epitaph Say About You?

Posted on August 21, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

A gravestone is often marked with the birth and death dates and sometimes a single line written by children of the deceased. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 22, 2013 My family and I went to Emley’s Cemetery in Imlaystown, … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged abuse, anger, angry, change, child, child abuse, children, Dad, daughter, death, divorce, family, father, frustrated, kids, Mom, mother, parent, Parents Anonymous, punishment, son, spanking | 12 Comments

What’s the Volume of Your Home?

Posted on August 21, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

We instinctively cover our ears when we know we are about to hear an extremely loud noise, but what about those loud noises we do not expect? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 21, 2013 Extremely loud sounds do not … Continue reading →

Posted in Education, How-To, Parenting | Tagged anger, child, children, Dad, dB, Deafness, Decibels, Ear Pain, Eardrum, father, frustration, hearing damage, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, loud, Mom, mother, noise, noise pollution, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, stress | 1 Comment

One Spill Away From Disaster

Posted on August 16, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Parents are pushed to the limit by work and school schedules and most are running late and it’s only noon. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 15, 2013 There are too many stories of child abuse on the TV news … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged anger, child, children, daughter, father, Hurry, kids, Mess, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, Pressure, son, Spill, Spilled Milk, stress | 1 Comment

Dial-Up and Spanking

Posted on August 9, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Writing about spanking drums up negative images from my childhood that makes it seem like just yesterday. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 8, 2013 Many will remember the early years of computers when our internet connections via telephone lines … Continue reading →

Posted in Education, How-To, Parenting | Tagged abuse, anger, angry, Bible, Biblical, child, child abuse, children, computer, Dad, daughter, dial-up, discipline, family, father, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, kids, Mom, mother, parent, parenting, Parents Anonymous, patience, recording, spanking, stress, Telephone, whippings | 1 Comment

“Retard” & “Retarded” – Teach Kids Now

Posted on August 1, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Many children have uttered the term “retard” or “retarded” to express their dislike of someone or during an argument not thinking of the group of people they offend. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 1, 2013 Children – and many adults … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, Education, How-To, Parenting | Tagged anger, angry, Call names, child, children, co-parenting, daughter, discipline, father, frustration, Insult, Intellectually/Developmentally Disabled, kids, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, Physically Developmentally Disabled, politically correct, Retard, Retarded, Slur, son, support group, technically correct, upset | 3 Comments

Trayvon Martin: My Hope

Posted on July 19, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Unable to concentrate on my writing, I search for a way to cope with black reality and to go on after the stunning verdict in the Zimmerman trial. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 17, 2013 As hot as it … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, Parenting, Random Thoughts | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, African-American, anger, angry, Black, child, Confusion, Danger, Disbelief, Emotions, grief, Gun, parents, Parents Anonymous, Prejudice, Racism, Racist, shame, Violence, Zimmerman | 3 Comments

Before You Lose Your Cool…

Posted on July 13, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Sometimes we parents become angry and act without thinking— and sometimes hurt the very children we love. Words, once they leave our lips, cannot be taken back. Putting a plan in place before it is needed can make all the … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, anger, angry, child, child abuse, children, daughter, family, father, frustrated, frustration, kids, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, patience, son | 1 Comment

Spanking and Anger-Rage Issues

Posted on July 7, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

When a parent has anger-rage issues they may reach a point when they will be unable to control of their actions. When this happens, a parent may not be able to stop or regain control of their actions or emotions. … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting, Public Service Announcement (PSA) | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, anger, child, child abuse, children, parent, parenting, Parents Anonymous | Leave a comment

Reporting My Husband to CPS Not Once – But Twice

Posted on May 23, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

When my husband would not quit hitting our girls, I had to find a way to stop him myself. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 23, 2013 Parenting differences often pop up when moms and dads do not agree on … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, abuse, anger, bruises, change, child, child abuse, Child protective services, children, co-parenting, corporal punishment, CPS, daughter, discipline, DYFS, father, group, hitting, husband, kids, mother, out-of-control, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, punishment, spanking, stress, support group | 10 Comments

Choosing Corporal Punishment

Posted on May 22, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Parents have many decisions ahead of them when babies grow into young children: vegan or meat, car or van, spanking or non-violence. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 22, 2013 When any parent chooses to use corporal punishment it makes … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, abuse, anger, child, child abuse, children, corporal punishment, father, hitting, mother, non-violent, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, slapping, spanking, whipping | 2 Comments

Toddler Tantrum Tips

Posted on May 15, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Toddlers’ tantrums are infuriating and embarrassing but if you can take yourself out of auto-pilot mode you can see you do have solutions. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 16, 2013 When Chelsey was born I spent months dreading the … Continue reading →